After QT & I ended it, we kinda hooked up again occasionally for a movie and a bit of action.
That dwindled off as he got into the party scene with his friends again (he is only 22 after all) & as I found out on Facebook the other day – he is also “ina relationship” but it is complicated.
I started my mini “thing” with Cutie (also 22) & soon broke it off when I realised I was going nowhere with it.
Let’s be honest – you need true passion if you are going to be with someone – and that is something that is sorely lacking in my life at the moment.
MC has let me down and I am currently debating whether or not to cut him out of my life once and for all.
He came up with a great idea to go away for our birthdays because we are a week apart. I loved the idea and did some research into possible accommodations.
I have always wanted to stay in the cutest little treehouses which also boast a private jacuzzi bath in another little tree linked by a walkway.
The treehouses are along the Midlands Meander, and because MC is from that area, I would fly to him and we could drive there.
It is a bit pricey, but I am prepared to stay there a night or 2 and spend the rest of the week at his place where we can laze about and watch dvds and eat popcorn.
I am still waiting for him to commit to anything. Seriously?!
It p!sses me off that this was his idea to begin with & now he just ignores me when I ask him what is happening.
A night or 2 is not too hard on the pocket- surely a night or 2 is not unrealistic if he had considered what budget he would need for a week away.
I have pretty much given him an ultimatum on the holiday – but I have now decided that the ultimatum will extend to our friendship/relationship as well.
I will not be messed around by anybody – he has a few days to give me his decision & if I hear nothing from him, then that is over.
I am crazy about him. But I am not crazy
How’s that for surreal?
I spent the morning with Bebe, we made some breakfast and had a lazy morning chatting.
I went home and being alone my thoughts naturally drifted again to QT.
I was feeling quite maudlin until I arrived at J’s house to spend the evening with him and Li. J made us pizza dough (from scratch) and we made up our custom pizzas which we cooked in the Weber.
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Some delicious Alto Rouge accompanied our pizza feast. We played Scene It ( a movie quiz) on X Box and had a blast.
My first day of 2011 ended with a lovely evening spent with my parents. We had some dinner and really good laughs and I find myself appreciating these special moments with my parents more and more.
It was only the 3 of us – once I get married it won’t just be the 3 of us – and as much as I long for the day I can finally have my husband share these special times with my folks & me – I am glad I have these memories.
At my age – You dont spend 9 months of your life with someone not to be hurt when it doesnt work out.
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I did get a little bored and wanted a bit of excitement – now I have it and I am lonely – whatever happened to a Happy Medium?
What has Flirty been doing (& plans to do) with her time?
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…attended our annual Christmas Party, alas nobody stole anyone’s presents – always good for some laughs
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Update: Yes I have seen him. He told me the other day that the real reason he ended it was because I told him I needed to talk. He thought I was going to break up with him so he ended it first to avoid being hurt.
I was stunned and even more disappointed. Again he shows that he would rather give up what we had than risk being hurt.
I suppose I shouldn’t judge him for his immaturity – I knew his youth and naivete would factor into our relationship sooner or later.
We had agreed to be friends (we were for a while before we began dating) and it has been ok for me. I didn’t know if I wanted to remain friends and gave us space for a few weeks. I made the contact and I enjoy that we still have such an easy rapport.
The mistake was that we shared such a “normal” day, he called me “babe” by mistake and I caught him giving me the adoring looks. Later when I left, I felt like I was going through the break up all over again and cried all the way home.
He left to go to Ballito today, which will give me time out. He only returns in January.
Would we ever get back together? I am not sure – he “broke” us, I am not sure it can be fixed.
Never say never and all that… time will give us the answer.
…had dinner with Bebe at Melrose Arch – the decorations are in full force and it is breathtakingly beautiful.
We went for a milkshake after dinner at the Protea Fire & Ice. If you haven’t yet experienced it, you have to go! Milkshake choices range from Lindt chocolate, Oreo cookies, Tutti Fruiti etc etc etc (the list is huge!) If you are not ravenous, make sure you order the half pint, or else you end up with a fishbowl full of milkshake!
The restaurant is Hollywood Vintage – I am aching to have a dress up cocktail party at this venue.
Black and white photos of the stars, mirrors and chandeliers everywhere – the perfect venue for my dream photo shoot.
I was blown away by the huge choice of food on the menu – most of all their sushi.
Ordinary to the extra-ordinary. I ate Springbok Carpaccio California rolls filled with Cream Cheese and Parmesan, Prawn, Shrimp, Chives and Cream Cheese Dim Sum and some tempura prawns ended off with some Salmon Strawberry and Cream Cheese california rolls YUM – MEEEE!
The sushi is fresh and the staff and management are friendly, but non-intrusive. I guarantee you will struggle to find better sushi/dim sum etc here.
Don’t eat sushi/Dim Sum? Create your own noodle dish – choose your noodles, ingredient and sauce – what is not to like?
CTFM – eat your heart out (while we eat at the competition)
I spent the rest of the day Christmas shopping. This year I am cutting costs (I love Christmas so much but tend to go overboard spoiling my loved ones) only shopping for my parents and my brother and my nephew (arriving in March)
In my Santa’s bag are:
…. I was supposed to meet Hot Rod for dinner but then he decided to change it to an early drink because he had other plans. I cancelled.
If you make dinner plans with me, don’t cut them short because you have now made other business plans. Not on.
Instead I have spent a very enjoyable evening catching up on my regular blog fix, with a Woolies mushroom and cheese burger, a cup of hot coffee and a warm, fluffy purring cat on my lap. Pure.Bliss.
Actually lets be more specific about the car cleaning, I actually cleaned and waxed the car – What. Was. I. Thinking? Think Wax on. Wax Off – wax off… again. This was a mission and a half! At lest now I have a streaky clean car
I also took my shoes in to have heel rubbers replaced and dropped a stack of books at the 2nd hand bookstore.
I finally removed all 5 license disks and replaced them with the current one. The only thing I didn’t do, was to get my tyre fixed. A random puncture has me driving on my spare tyre again.
Tee finally left asshole and moved out completely. I am so proud of her. After threatening the end of our friendship I think she got the picture.
We went out to celebrate last night & had cocktails and curry at Kai Thai. There is a new book store in Monte Casino called Skoobs. Awesome shop!
They have fishtanks and a lift with gorgeous High (high!)back chairs to sit and read.
My favourite? They serve Starbucks coffee which you can enjoy as you watch the people walking by, and they have a wall where you can write anything you like and peg it to the line.
My contribution: Don’t mess with a Princess
G5 phoned Tee the entire night and eventually I was so angry I took the phone and told him that she has left him, he is no longer a part of her life and he must get his own. He started shouting at me, I told him Get a Life and put the phone down.
I am really getting tired of this harrassment and frankly, plain pathetic behaviour from him.Tee needs him to sign papers releasing her from her bond payments, and I think we need to start getting tough and get a lawyer to help him along – unless any of you know a good Bouncer?
Visit RaceCar at Dialysis – this was a regular Sat occurrence until he changed his hospital. Seeing as I am off I have time to drive there.
Take my parents out for dinner to thank them in advance for housing myself and Shez when she comes to stay next week.
So much for resting this holiday, I guess it stops me from thinking about QT and being single.
It’s been a month since QT and I split up. Some days are really hard in that I miss him.
I was going through my FB messages to clear my inbox out and I found our messages where we first started our flirtation. 11 Dec is a year ago.
I also funnily enough found a message where I told him that I have only 1 New Years resolution – to find a decent boyfriend with the following qualities:
Wicked sense of humour like me, not childish
Intelligent
Loves animals
Willing to watch the occassional girly movie with me.
Someone who is affectionate with me and understands my quirkiness.
Scary how I pretty much described QT to a tee. Makes me sad when I read our old messages. Sad that good things end.
I know it was the right thing to do and in the end we never did want the same things, which we both knew.
I have been keeping busy: M – he and I dated for a few months in highchool and remained friends. I have pretty much avoided his calls these last few years because I did not want him to see how much weight I have put on since then.
I saw him again a few weeks ago. I remembered why we got along so well. He is fun and easy to talk to and he reminded me of who I was in highschool. Carefree and fun to be with because I didn’t have responsibilities hanging over my head.
I am seeing him again for a movie, he makes me smile and that is always a good thing 😉
Clint is another blast from my past. I dated him for a few months after meeting him on an internet dating site. He fell in love with me and I didn’t feel the same way. I loved being with him though, he is a copy writer in advertising and has a few awards under his belt (including a Loerie)
He is super intelligent and sensitive and a great story teller. When he got too intense, I had to end it.
A year later we got in touch again and I saw him for dinner. Again, I had fun catching up and having some interesting dinner conversation.
If you haven’t noticed this about me, I thrive on GREAT conversation. I love getting to know a person and listening to their views on life.
Nothing like intelligence and wit to have my rapt attention for hours.
My friend Shez is arriving from Australia on 22 December. I met her on Contiki in 2005 and she is finally coming to SA for a visit.
I am really excited to show her parts of SA, I really wish we had more time (and an unlimited credit card)
I am planning to take her to the Monte Casino Bird Gardens and perhaps catch the latest Pantomime at the Jhb Civic Theatre.
I have booked ourself a Canopy Tour in the Magaliesberg. I have always wanted to do this and Tee will be joining us. You sail on safety lines over the trees and rocks from 1 platform to another. I cannot wait!
We will go to my parents for Christmas and then travel to Parys to have lunch in Rubys – the little restaurant I have spoken of before where the decor is a decadent mix of Marilyn Monroe, Venetian masks and feather boas etc.
Gold Reef City is a theme park based on the mining industry that was so big in Jhb in years gone by, with fun rides such as Miner’s Revenge, Tower of Terrot, The Jozi Express and the Anaconda.
We will also probably visit the Apartheid Museum which I believe is very interesting.
We have a busy schedule ahead and I am looking forward to it.
Boomie is still gone 😦 My heart breaks for him. He was my big baby boy and I have so many happy memories with him. My whole morning routine is different without him and Squeaky’s whole life is different too. I just can’t imagine where he is and I really hope he is with a family who love him – the alternatives are too scary to contemplate.
Christmas shopping is on my to do list, I adore being able to spoil the ones I love and even though I am keeping it very small this year, I still cant wait to buy something for my mom and Dad, brother and close friends.
Career life has been busy.
We recently had our year end function – A Night at the Oscars and it was an absolute hit with the staff. I received lots of compliments. We handed out little gold Oscars to the winners who were anonymously voted for by their peers and I even put together a little music video complete with songs for each nominee.
We had a lovely venue in Morningside on a deck in the open. Our live band were illuminated by the moon behind them and it was such a stunning setting to eat and dance under the moonlight (thanks to the perfect Jhb weather that night)
Miss J is our new PA and even though she only started on 1 December, I just know she is going to crack it. She fits in really well with the ladies in the office and she has what it takes to deal with my boss.
I am finally able to concentrate on the million tasks that I have been given, but done nothing about. What I love about marketing is that it is more a creative job, not totally admin orientated and this is what I do best – creativity.
I go on leave in 1 week, and I am super excited. I need time to find myself. I need time to relax and stop stressing, as this stress is going to kill me (as I suspect it might have killed my mind already)
I hope in the new year that my salary will be looked at and my increase will be effected. I am still in the dark as to how much increase I will get.
Seeing as I will be homeless at the end of Feb, I also need to start looking for a new place to stay.
So now that QT and I are over I have taken his photo out my wallet, I have changed my desktop background, I have removed the photo off my wall at work and I have taken off my “I love QT” keyring etc
What do I do with the keyring? Give it back to him and tell him to give it to his next girlfriend?
I also have a pair of his socks and he has my dressing gown, but surprisingly after 9 months together, we were both pretty good about keeping our stuff.
He had planned to keep an extra change of clothes at my house, I had planned to keep a pair of sunglasses in his car. We just never got around to it
So what do I do with the keyring? Dump it?
What do I do with his socks? Have a little reunion to do the swap?
I wrote to him on facebook this morning getting a few things of my chest:
Hi
I just can’t help feeling that there are unsaid things from my side and I have to get them off my chest, otherwise they just build up into misplaced resentment. I can’t help feeling hurt by a lot of the things you said to me and still am very disappointed by what you said because I still feel that there were issues that were blown up to become bigger than they should have been.
The point of this letter isn’t to have a big back and forwards discussion about us because you had clearly made up your mind already – I just want to have my say to get it out:
For 9 months you were a huge part of my life and after my initial doubts, you and I worked so well. I was happy, you made me smile, you were open to trying things and doing things and I loved it
Somewhere along the line your racing became an issue and you were always tired and my job became an issue and my anaemia and I was always tired. And we stagnated and I got bored. The zoo was a spark that made me remember how we used to be- the stolen kisses in public, the sneaky bum grab, a hug from behind and a random kiss on my shoulder. My best was wrapping my arms around you and hugging and kissing you in the middle of nowhere
I think we forgot that we needed to go out and have fun and that no matter how much you wanted to sleep or I wanted to watch tv that that open air was good for us.
By becoming bored with our relationship, we fell into a rut that I don’t think we even realised at first.
While I was away I knew we needed to regain the excitement that we had in the beginning. It wouldn’t have been a huge effort to change it because we had it there before. All we had to do was remember. I was willing to and you weren’t
I just want to thank you for everything these last few months QT. The bad things and issues between us are in the foreground now and are overclouding the good times, but that is the great thing about issues, you eventually forget about them and focus on the good times.
I had so much fun with you, I was so happy with you and I will never forget the happy memories we had together. I wish we had lasted longer because I think we had the potential.
He replied not long afterwards:
I don’t want to give you my take on what I think because then its just going backwards and forwards like you said you didn’t really want to do.
I just really want to thank you far everything and all the good times we had together. I had an awesome time with you and I hope you had a good time with me aswell. I also hope that in time we could still remain friends because you are such an awesome person and I don’t wanna lose a friendship aswell.
That is that – I cant do or say anything else.
I dont know if I want to remain friends, right now it just hurts too much and why should he have my friendship when he didn’t want me? (I almost wrote as much to him, but decided rather not to say anything)
I have to focus on moving past this in as mature a way as I can. Even though I feel like shouting and screaming at him just to get back at him for hurting me.
I just cant believe it is over.
…. are never easy
I miss QT
I am angry with QT
I am disappointed in him
I thought we were stronger, he didn’t
I am going to miss the random kisses on my shoulder, the loving kisses while holding hands.
I am going to miss cuddling together watching Vampire Diaries or Supernatural
I am going to miss driving fast in his Subaru with the wind whipping my hair and the total exhileration of a fun day out with my boyfriend
I am going to miss the feeling of being able to call him to tell him about the stupid things in my life, because I know he is interested and wants to know all about my life
I am going to miss his smell
I wish I could phone him and tell him about the little kitten that is my temporary guest
I wish we had more time to do all the things I still wanted to do with him
I think we needed a relationship shake up because I was getting a bit bored
I didn’t think we would break up
I don’t know if this is the best thing for us – it might be
… Sucks.
New girl walked out on us disappeared without a word or backward glance on 25 October – I am now the PA and Marketing person. 0800-I-DO-IT-ALL (except get paid)
My baby is still missing
QT & I broke up last night
How am I going to get through this?
QT’s birthday was at the end of August – we eventually decided on the perfect gift for him – a pair of Oakley Oil Rigs. A few of us pitched in and I get great discounts from my former boss and I could also put it on account so that I am not bankrupted.
After having worked in an optometry pracice for 9 years we got to see which glasses were great quality and which weren’t.
We underwent training on Oakley, Nike, Ray Ban, Serengheti, Adidas to name a few.
It was our 7 month anniversary yesterday – and I forgot… again! that is 3 times in a row – yet he still loves me. How lucky am I?
Couples massage was my Sunday surprise from QT. We have both been under pressure and in need of some pampering – so he booked us a neck and back massgae as well as a foot and leg massage. He kept it a secret right up until Sunday morning when I made him tell me. Good thing too – I had to de-fuzz my underarms and legs, or else the poor therapist would have gotten her hands cut on my dangerous stubble!
It was heavenly and made me wish I had more time to lie there!
I resisted temptation on a shopping spree with my Tee. We had breakfast at Primi Piatti (hashbrown, bacon and cheese with cherry tomatoe stack – YUM) and then we went into every single Home store you can think of: Mr Price Home, @ Home, Boardmans, Woolworths, Coricraft.
Tee bought a gorgous butterfly duvet cover – I kept joking that it was tacky because I loved it so much. 😉
She also bought lovely new bath towels and matching mat (the exact mat I had my eye on the previous week) as well as a stunning vase.
I didnt buy a single things – I am serious about trying to get out of debt. I have even explored the option of selling some of my things to try get extra money.
Kalahari.net have a second hand goods section. I am going to try it out and see if I can get better value on my items than I would at Cash Converters for instance.
So far my list includes 1 long suede leather jacket, black biking leather jacket, variety of CDS, 1 or 2 pairs of shoes that I bought and wore once but they hurt me. I even have unused balls of wool and a hair iron that has also never been used.
My Ear is very slowly clearing up – I have to be very careful with it. Got a recurrent infection, but this time I used my infamous Tea Tree oil and blasted it out in 2 days. (Me and my Tee Tree oil are another story all together)
My Marketing position is taking forever to be announced. I flew to Cape Town yesterday for a marketing meeting and thought it would be announced there.
I am in the process of interviewing more ladies for the PA position – even thought I want the lady I originally interviewed – my boss loved her but wants to see other options – the problem is that there are no other options out there. everybody thinks they can be a PA – but it isnt a job for you unless you are 1 tough bitch quite strong.
So I can’t officially celebrate with yummy cocktails until I have been officially appointed – you never can tell what could happen.
Both my orchid plants are showing signs of new life. QT bought me 1 when I was sick with my kidneys and it has 5 new buds.
My other orchid is a year old and is starting a brand new shoot.
I am so excited! I adore orchids.
I want a white one next, although I saw the most beautiful yellow orchid too. decisions decisions (for when I win the Lotto one day)
Remember my post HERE about my friend Tee who bought a house and moved in with her new loser boyfriend?
Well, she admitted that she was wrong – after he kicked her door in, held her down and pinched her and broke every single glass thing she owns.
And she is still living with him – albeit now as housemates, they each have their own room.
But she is now shopping for a steel reinforced door to protect herself. WTF? W. T. F???
We have all spoken to her about leaving him, being in the same house is so dangerous, but she insists that the house is a great investment. (More important than your safety? I dont think so)
She says she is helping him get help from a professional. i reckon a frying pan to the side of the head should do the trick.
Wondering what the next challenge is? I am working on a slightly different type of challenge that I hope you will like.
More details to follow soon…..
Taking a break from my photo challenges – it has been a while since I wrote on here & I am feeling the need for a bit of blog-therapy.
Let me fill you in on what has been happening:
And my absolute best piece of news:
QT told me he loved me! (It still gives me thrills when he says it)
I cannot believe that he and I are still together. He makes me so happy and I still cant believe that I am so comfortable with him.
I love that I can be myself with him.
I love him
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